Showing posts with label spouse affair. Show all posts
Showing posts with label spouse affair. Show all posts
Monday, November 5, 2012
Healing In Affair Relationships - Can They Really Last
Healing In Affair Relationships - Can They Really Last
Hello guys,
Affair in marriages do happen. But what do you do if you're in this situation? Can there be healing from affair? Can a marriage survive an affair?
Affair relationships, can they really last? If your relationship has started off as an affair and the two of you are wondering if you should leave your spouses and try to make a go of your relationship, you have to carefully consider the consequences of such an action.
It's very tough to keep a relationship going if it has started off by both of you lying and cheating. For one thing you're both going to have a real problem trusting each other. I mean, you both know that you've both cheated, how can you ever really be sure that you won't each cheat on each other? Even if the two of you can overcome that, there are still all the other issues to consider.
For one thing, are there kids involved? This is by far the hardest situation to work through. No one wants to hurt their kids and it will be virtually impossible for the kids to ever feel warm fuzzies for the person who broke their other parent's heart (at least that's the way the kids will see it. More than likely they'll let their cheating parent largely off the hook and blame the other man/woman).
Even if there aren't kids involved, you have to remember that this relationship is just like any other: it starts off hot and passionate, but can you keep that alive? Your marriage probably started off that way too and look where that is.
One of the biggest reasons the two of you felt so free in the first place was because you didn't share any responsibilities. The day to day grind is almost always what slowly works it's way between couples and causes the problems. You have to be realistic enough to recognize that the very same thing will happen between the two of you over time. Your brand new 'soulmate' may not seem so brand new in five or ten years... just like your spouse.
Of course, having considered all of these facts there still remains one question you have to ask yourself, do you still love your spouse? If you can honestly say that you just don't feel love for your spouse (and I'm not talking about the fireworks, tingling toes feeling that always fades and changes in any relationship) than despite the pain it will cause you might be doing them a favor in the long run by leaving.
If it comes to that, it's best for everyone involved if you don't let them know that the catalyst for the breakup is your affair. That is one secret you should keep to yourself. Just let your spouse know that the marriage is over and be as compassionate as possible.
Affair relationships almost never work, but if the two of you have decided that even though you met in the wrong way, you still have a deep love for each other and that your marriages have been over for a long time, you might as well give it a go. Just keep the fact that you've been together while you were still married to other people, between the two of you. No need to cause unnecessary pain.
If you like to read more on affair in marriage or about relationships then I suggest you download the book Magic of Making Up by T.W. Jackson. Download and read through it.
Click here to download Magic of Making Up.
To your relationship success.
P.S. Affair in marriage. Can a marriage survive an affair? Download your copy of Magic of Making Up today. Click here to download Magic of Making Up.
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Surviving Infidelity and Affair in Marriage - 5 Key Benefits
Surviving Infidelity and Affair in Marriage - 5 Key Benefits
Hello guys,
"I Wanted To Strangle My Husband Ray When I Caught Him Red-Handed In An Affair"
"I Felt So Devastated, Enraged and Humiliated. I Never Dreamed I Could Save My Marriage, Let Alone Trust Him Again..." - Kathie Brown
Is this you?
Most of you will worry when your spouse have an affair: What caused the affair? What did your spouse do with that other person? How do I get rid of the images of my spouse and him/her? What to tell friends? What is going to happen in the future and most important of all, how will the children manage?
Most of you would very much want to learn how to cope with the emotional pain from an affair, survive the affair, rebuild relationship and rebuild trust after an affair so you can becomes a stronger person.
There are some good online resources to get the benefits of survival in an affair of marriage all over the internet. Many Blogs have great content on surviving an affair in marriage and much more too.
You can also find programs that provide individual support online that are really top-notch. These Therapist have used the same successful methods in real life that you'll be getting in the online program. Anyway, here's some key benefits on surviving infidelity and affair in marriage.
5 key benefits on surviving infidelity and affair in marriage.
1. The most important benefit to surviving an affair in marriage is being able to manage your painful emotions. Your whole system of right and wrong was turned upside-down when your spouse cheated. Understand the process by the management of painful emotions, why things happened, and decisions on the way forward to a stronger person at the end.
2. One of the most important benefits of surviving an affair in marriage is becoming a stronger person. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger is true here.
3. You get the knowledge to a climate that fosters an affair and how it can be avoided; infidelity in the future, no matter where you are until the end.
4. Another important benefit to surviving an affair in marriage is regaining your self-respect. The impact of your cheating spouse has you vulnerable and feeling insecure. Once you repair the damage you will be your old self again, and even more self reliant.
5. Rebuilding trust after an affair and healing after the affair. One thing for sure, before he/she was afraid to tell you what happened. Truth is he/she might have tried but are afraid how upset you would get by telling you. By letting them know you're willing to listen and control your emotion, it could help you both in the process of rebuilding trust after an affair and start the healing.
You will also be able to tell your kids what they need to know as well as friends and family. You will learn from all this that your spouses infidelity was about his/her bad choices and not something you did, but it may be up to you to prevent the types of atmospheres that promoted infidelity in your marriage - ever again.
If you want more help on surviving infidelity and affair in marriage then check out Dr. Frank Gunzburg Step-by-Step System For Saving Your Relationship After It's Been Shattered By An Affair.
Click here to check out his program:
Testimonials from those surviving an affair using Dr. Frank Gunzburg Step-by-Step System:
These are real testimonies, from real people that have gone through his system. They cover everything from repairing their emotions to rebuilding the trust back into their marriage. Please go through them and experience the kind of transformation that is possible with his system.
"I learned how to start trusting my wife again."
"You are a big help! You taught me how to take my wife's reassurance at face value and quit doubting her sincerity. After doing that I learned how to start trusting my wife again."
David Woodmansee
Moore, OK
"...we are starting over with a clean slate"
I have been working for a long time trying to rebuild trust with my husband after his affair. He felt that just because he was sorry and wanted to work it out that I should IMMEDIATELY trust him again and stopped talking about the affair.
However I still had questions that were haunting me and could not move forward. Once he read your section on how to rebuild the trust, he understood more about what I needed from him!
It is amazing that some of the things mentioned in your section are exactly what I wanted to happen. Of course when I said it, he didn't give much thought to it but I guess seeing it in writing from an actual author made it real.
After reading just this one section and understanding what I needed from him my husband agreed to answer ANY question in regards to his affair that I had. Believe me it wasn't easy for either one of us to actually have to tell the truth about what happened on his part and for me to hear it. But now for the first time I honestly feel like we are starting over with a clean slate.
Thank you Dr. Gunzburg!"
Nicole Williams
Oceanside, CA
"I feel more secure and feel that I can begin to trust him again."
"Building trust has been the biggest challenge for us and at times appeared to be impossible. The tips that you provided have been great because it has made my spouse understand my feeling s and needs better and I feel more secure and feel that I can begin to trust him again. Thanks!"
Lylla Childress
Cary, NY
Hello guys,
"I Wanted To Strangle My Husband Ray When I Caught Him Red-Handed In An Affair"
"I Felt So Devastated, Enraged and Humiliated. I Never Dreamed I Could Save My Marriage, Let Alone Trust Him Again..." - Kathie Brown
Is this you?
Most of you will worry when your spouse have an affair: What caused the affair? What did your spouse do with that other person? How do I get rid of the images of my spouse and him/her? What to tell friends? What is going to happen in the future and most important of all, how will the children manage?
Most of you would very much want to learn how to cope with the emotional pain from an affair, survive the affair, rebuild relationship and rebuild trust after an affair so you can becomes a stronger person.
There are some good online resources to get the benefits of survival in an affair of marriage all over the internet. Many Blogs have great content on surviving an affair in marriage and much more too.
You can also find programs that provide individual support online that are really top-notch. These Therapist have used the same successful methods in real life that you'll be getting in the online program. Anyway, here's some key benefits on surviving infidelity and affair in marriage.
5 key benefits on surviving infidelity and affair in marriage.
1. The most important benefit to surviving an affair in marriage is being able to manage your painful emotions. Your whole system of right and wrong was turned upside-down when your spouse cheated. Understand the process by the management of painful emotions, why things happened, and decisions on the way forward to a stronger person at the end.
2. One of the most important benefits of surviving an affair in marriage is becoming a stronger person. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger is true here.
3. You get the knowledge to a climate that fosters an affair and how it can be avoided; infidelity in the future, no matter where you are until the end.
4. Another important benefit to surviving an affair in marriage is regaining your self-respect. The impact of your cheating spouse has you vulnerable and feeling insecure. Once you repair the damage you will be your old self again, and even more self reliant.
5. Rebuilding trust after an affair and healing after the affair. One thing for sure, before he/she was afraid to tell you what happened. Truth is he/she might have tried but are afraid how upset you would get by telling you. By letting them know you're willing to listen and control your emotion, it could help you both in the process of rebuilding trust after an affair and start the healing.
You will also be able to tell your kids what they need to know as well as friends and family. You will learn from all this that your spouses infidelity was about his/her bad choices and not something you did, but it may be up to you to prevent the types of atmospheres that promoted infidelity in your marriage - ever again.
If you want more help on surviving infidelity and affair in marriage then check out Dr. Frank Gunzburg Step-by-Step System For Saving Your Relationship After It's Been Shattered By An Affair.
Click here to check out his program:
Testimonials from those surviving an affair using Dr. Frank Gunzburg Step-by-Step System:
These are real testimonies, from real people that have gone through his system. They cover everything from repairing their emotions to rebuilding the trust back into their marriage. Please go through them and experience the kind of transformation that is possible with his system.
"I learned how to start trusting my wife again."
"You are a big help! You taught me how to take my wife's reassurance at face value and quit doubting her sincerity. After doing that I learned how to start trusting my wife again."
David Woodmansee
Moore, OK
"...we are starting over with a clean slate"
I have been working for a long time trying to rebuild trust with my husband after his affair. He felt that just because he was sorry and wanted to work it out that I should IMMEDIATELY trust him again and stopped talking about the affair.
However I still had questions that were haunting me and could not move forward. Once he read your section on how to rebuild the trust, he understood more about what I needed from him!
It is amazing that some of the things mentioned in your section are exactly what I wanted to happen. Of course when I said it, he didn't give much thought to it but I guess seeing it in writing from an actual author made it real.
After reading just this one section and understanding what I needed from him my husband agreed to answer ANY question in regards to his affair that I had. Believe me it wasn't easy for either one of us to actually have to tell the truth about what happened on his part and for me to hear it. But now for the first time I honestly feel like we are starting over with a clean slate.
Thank you Dr. Gunzburg!"
Nicole Williams
Oceanside, CA
"I feel more secure and feel that I can begin to trust him again."
"Building trust has been the biggest challenge for us and at times appeared to be impossible. The tips that you provided have been great because it has made my spouse understand my feeling s and needs better and I feel more secure and feel that I can begin to trust him again. Thanks!"
Lylla Childress
Cary, NY
Click here to get into his program.
To your marriage success.
P.S. Get A Step-by-Step System For Saving Your Relationship After It's Been Shattered By An Affair - Dr. Frank Gunzburg. You still got the chance to save your relationship and marriage! Click here to get into the program now!
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